Although there are more interracial couples, and more interracial marriage than ever before, interracial dating is still surprisingly rare. And, while it may seem that the idea of interracial dating is now accepted by the general American public, interracial black and white spouses still feel the sting of racism. Is it possible that the online dating arena has become a safe haven for interracial dating and interracial couples?
According to a recent article by NPR, nearly 96% of African Americans and 84% of White Americans are accepting of the idea of interracial marriage. Their statistics show a positive increase in the number of individuals tolerant to the notion of interracial couples.
It should therefore be no surprise that the Current Population Survey released this September records that %7.4 of all US marriages are between individuals of different races or ethnic backgrounds.
However, the statistics above do not shed light on those marriages between blacks and whites which are shockingly rare. In fact, as of 2010 only 0.3% of married white men and 0.8% of married white women are married to black partners, and according to NPR whites marry blacks less than they do any other race or ethnicity.
Seeing Both Sides
Today, interracial marriages may no longer be scandalous as they were in the 1950s and 60s. However, they still turn heads. In fact, many interracial couples fear rejection from friends and report hearing racist opinions and biases, even among family members.
A recent BET article quoted Black actress Regina King as saying that “every time an opportunity comes up for [most of my friends] to date outside of their race, there’s some excuse why it’s not going to work… But we’ll know really what it is. It’s ’cause he’s white.”
And Beth McKay, a white wife to a Black man, told NPR that “”Whenever I’m around people and they don’t know that my husband is black, that’s when I get their honest opinions”.
While America is considered to be a melting pot, it can still be hard for Blacks and Whites to meet and date interracially in traditional dating environments.
Interracial Dating Online
Despite these obstacles, most statistics still show a general upswing in overall attitude towards interracial dating. And with the explosion of the internet, there’s a new way for interracial couples to meet and date in a comfortable and non-biased dating environment: online!
There are a wide variety of online dating places today which actively encourage interracial dating. In fact, dating sites offer significant advantages to these types of relationships.
To begin with, this is convenient. You do not need to bother with being fixed up, or going out to bars or clubs and meeting total strangers. Not only is that time consuming, it may even be unfruitful! Instead, pick a nice site, register and start searching and sorting through possible matches and getting to know people online.
The whole process is very discreet and private. You never need to provide anyone with any information you feel uncomfortable disclosing. And, since it is just you and your potential dates, you do not need to expose any relationship until you are ready. You can take your time and get to know someone at your convenience until you decide its time to meet them in person.
Finding Interracial Dating Sites Online
Just as with Christian dating, or really any other type of niche dating market segment, it is very easy to find sites with a positive focus on interracial dating and relationships. Just doing a basic google search will provide you with enough options to research for the next few years!
As professional dating site reviewers, our advice is to examine the features, tools and services offered. Although looks can admittedly be deceiving, find a site which has a nice look to you.
Every dating site should have at minimum, at least the following:
• A way to create a basic profile
• The ability to upload a photo(s)…and more than one, hopefully
• The ability to edit your profile at a later time
• Ability to send and receive emails
• Ability to execute at least a basic location search
Even free dating services offer this much. Some have a whole list of really incredible options, including instant messaging, chat, forums and message boards, even video and audio chatting and greetings.
Find a service which has those types of features that appeal to you and that you think you will use!
Given all of the above, interracial dating can be a fun, exciting and tolerant experience.